Are you living your best life? Or are you mired in frustration and disappointment resulting from your attempt to control all aspects of your life? Control ~ one of the things that hooks many of us. We spend much of our energy trying to control the people, situations and events that comprise our lives. Remote controls, content control, control freaks, damage control, out of control, in control, beyond control, pest control…and the list goes on.
But, as we have all experienced, things have a funny way of not going the way we plan, and we are often left disappointed and frustrated. In fact, if we assess the gains reaped from these micromanaging efforts, we would see this energy to be misdirected and leading to negative returns. Why then do we continue with these desperate attempts? Why can we simply not succumb to the reality that so much in life is out of our control?
Perhaps it is that we fool ourselves into thinking we can predict the future or create a sense of certainty and therefore security. And while our efforts are put forth in an attempt to live more easeful and happy lives, ironically, they become hurdles ~ obstacles to our life’s enjoyment. The problem is that so much to which we direct our attention was never in our control to begin with.
This is not to say that we should not have a plan, or direction or hope; but with our administration, we should maintain a realistic non-attachment to the end results of these plans and hopes. That way when things do not go as we had planned and hoped, we are not left despondent and angry.
How best can you maintain your desires in life, but let go of the struggle? Learn to identify the things that you can change and let go of the rest. Truly believe that all is well in the universe even without your input. Things go more smoothly and life becomes more enjoyable when you surrender to all that you cannot control. Trust, have faith and enjoy your life. After all, what do you have to lose?
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” Steve Maraboli